Why are gamers so rude? I don’t get it, i really don’t. I’ve been a a gamer most of my life, and I’ve had different types of people enter this fantastic digital world with me that were into gaming, I.T. and a whole bunch of other stuff. I had black, colored, Indian, Portuguese, white, half Italian friends and i never treated any of them differently. They were all gamers and on that nugget of wisdom I treat gamers and non-gamers the same because there’s no reason to be a dick about a persons preference in gaming or lack of gaming.
If you guys remember, back in the day it was the dominate thought that gamers were fat. living in their mothers basement’s, eating chocolate bars like a bad Eric Cartman. If you mentioned gaming you were already deemed a nerd and a dork and would remain a social outcast until you did something exceptionally cool to prove your worth. Which i still believe is a bull shit tradition.
As the times have changed it’s more popular to be a gamer now more so than ever. Over the weekend i read an article at Theryanblog in which they were questioning whether achievements and trophies ruined the single player experience and perhaps even tarnish a game depending on the content. There was a pro’s list and a con’s list and one of the cons stood out. Maybe I’m ignorant and naive but i never knew that gamers judged other gamers based on their trophy level. Some gamers won’t even talk to you if you’re level is lower than theirs. After posting a few comments at the article below i decided to do some testing of my own.
You can read the full article at the link below.
I game mostly on PS3, so today i thought i would log into PSN, visit a few places, maybe meet some people online and get their opinions on the matter. By the way, I’m level 12 on PSN. It’s sad to say that most of the people I met today are dicks. I kid you not, I met so many people today all of them with a level that’s between the end teens to beginning twenties. When i sent them a message or entered one of their chat sessions one of three things would happen. They would either completely ignore me or say directly “we only deal with gamers” and my personal favorite “PM me when you’ve leveled up”. This is sometimes even before I’ve introduced myself. They don’t know if I’m a guy, girl, black, white, three-eyed, two brained, seven-limbed, hermaphrodite living in Rome. These arrogant sons of bitches won’t even acknowledge your existence until you meet there virtual expectations. That really saddens and annoys me for my own personal reasons that I will get to later on in this article. It turns out that Trophies/Achievements can ruin some good gaming fun and social networking if you allow it. But this little example isn’t the end of my story. If they were quick to judge a person they knew nothing about, I wondered what would happen if i had to say i was a girl gamer.
So i created a new account on PSN, logged into the account and obviously i had fuck all trophies. I setup my girl avatar and once i was back online i proceeded to speak to completely random people. Now it didn’t seem to make a difference what my trophy count was, people were speaking to me. But not about gaming. The first thing i got asked was “Are you hot?” Seriously? What virtual hell have i stumbled into now? Every time i brought up gaming though the conversation would change back to a more demeaning nature and gaming would not be part of it.
So now I’m thinking we as gamers judge other gamers based on a number next to our gamer tag and if you’re a girl gamer you either need to be a flirt to enjoy some company or need to kick ass in a multi-player match in order to prove yourself. Both of these objectives are bull shit. I don’t understand why woman have to prove themselves to men. That’s right i said it, you women shouldn’t have to prove anything and I have only one reason to validate my opinion. Childbirth, after the birth of my daughter i have seen the ugly side of being a woman and the pain that you guys have to go through and as men we never will never experience that kind of pain and that makes you a hell of a lot stronger.
This whole setup stinks and it honestly saddens me knowing that there are gamers out there who are not in it for the games. They’d rather just trophy hunt which is OK but it’s not OK to not be polite to someone just because their trophy level is sitting on a lower number than yours. I feel sorry for girl gamers and I am appalled by our gaming community in the way that you guys are treated. I read IGN a lot and one of their bloggers is under the community spotlight which is a great way to get recognition there. She’s a gamer and a very pretty one. One of the first comments on that article “the reason she’s under the community spotlight is because she has big boobs.” I want to stick my head in the sand and let the world fade away. I hate reading things like that. It just fucking bugs the hell out of me.
Let me tell you why i game before i finish this article. I was a social outcast when i was younger. I’m short, not very talented, and I had a bit of a confidence issue. I was also getting picked on at school because i did what i needed to do. Gaming was an outlet for me to DE-stress and relax. I only had a handful of gaming buddies at the time that would come play Ice Climber and Battle City with me. If i didn’t have gaming i would’ve been one of those kids that shot up their schools and I’m very honest about that. There were plenty of times where I even considered suicide. Gaming saved my life. I’m not trying to be dramatic but this is the fact of the matter.
The gaming community should not judge other gamers based on genitalia, sexual preference, age, trophy count, color, race and anything that separates us in the real world. We should be tolerant, polite, kind and helping. What was proven today is that some gamers are no better than the people who had outcast us back in the day and you give us a bad name. We were a family at one point. We all stuck together. Now we have factions and battle of the sexes. We don’t know what kind of impact we may have on a persons life when random encounters throw us together so its up to us to be responsible. You guys being dicks might be the catalyst to some poor kid killing himself when we could’ve helped him all along. It is our responsibility to help each other. As gamers we should be united. From all walks of gaming life, we are all gamers and we should treat each other as such.
Can i get a hallelujah?
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